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How are y’all doing today Fonzies?
I’d like to discuss something with you guys today… relationships. Good, bad, your happiest memory or your worst regret, almost all of us can say we’ve experienced it during our teen years. However, we’re all in college now, and most of us are looking to (hopefully) settle down with a long-term partner.
I can honestly say that I have a healthy relationship of nearly 2 years with my girlfriend, and although we may have our ups and downs, we always find a way to resolve it. That’s why today I’d like to share some advice to you guys who are struggling to maintain a relationship.
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Tip #1: Open Communication
Now some of you guys may have read this a dozen times in those relationship articles and probably yawned… but what does this REALLY mean? Open communication doesn’t simply involve the obvious things, such as telling your partner when you don’t like something they did. It also includes the everyday things, or the little things you may miss. For example, it’s easy to forget about your partner when you’ve had a stressful day filled with problems or when you’re just in no mood to talk to anyone. You may feel as if your issues have priority at the moment. However, take a minute to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and see things from their perspective. It takes no time at all to shoot your partner a reassuring text. Trust me, it’s much better than leaving someone on seen.
Additionally, bottling in your feelings does more harm than good. Although you may feel as if talking about your feelings will ruin the mood or make things awkward, someone who truly cares about you would appreciate the trust involved in it. Whether you have an issue
with something they said today, or you started feeling insecure over something unintentional that they did, clearing the air and resolving your doubts are much better than harboring resentment.
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Tip #2: Honesty and Respect
These 2 words pop up often in the relationship column of magazines and articles, but do you really practice it? My girlfriend and I practice complete honesty in our relationship. Whether that’s for you is up to each couple to decide. However, there are some benefits to being completely truthful with one another. For starters, we have a lot of trust for one another because we know that even white lies aren’t tolerated. This may seem a little much for some, but it’s genuinely refreshing to know that my hair ACTUALLY looks good today and for her to know that I’m simply playing games with the boys for a few hours.
However, honesty ties hand in hand with respect. Without respect for your partner, it’s impossible for them to be truly honest with you. Let’s say I were to ask my girlfriend what she was doing and she were to tell me she was out with a few
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were to respond harshly, that would show I lacked respect for her choices and she might not be truthful with me the next time around.
An important way to show respect to someone would also include hearing them out. Give your partner a chance to speak their part and keep an open mind to their side of the story. Nobody likes being silenced, so listen intently to what they have to say before drawing conclusions.
Tip #3: Quality Time
Even if you have already taken the Love Language Quiz and you determined your love language is “Words of Affirmation” or something else, every relationship still requires quality time. All the gifts in the world won’t matter when you both have drifted apart from each other. This is why long distance relationships are ultimately much harder to work, but still possible.
There were periods of time where my girlfriend and I couldn’t meet. We were both college/university students who also worked part-time, and we had plenty of other responsibilities to take care of. However, we made up for it by texting each other updates of what happened through the day, calling at night whenever we can, and bonding through online games and sites!
Top recommendations for multiplayer games:
Valorant (A healthy 1v1 is always fun)
Stardew Valley (Build a farm & complete quests together)
Phasmophobia (Be prepared to hear some screaming)
I hope these tips have helped you guys. However, don’t forget that relationships are a two-way street, and you deserve the same amount of effort you put into it. Hope you enjoyed reading this and remember to invite me to your weddings!
Written by,
Praba
The Fonz Content Creation Team
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