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Ah, can you smell that? It’s the time of the year when couples cry from planning a valentine’s date and singles get frustrated from the couples being all lovey-dovey in public.
Hence, a survival guide is vital for both couples and singles. After all, we singles must conserve our energy and sanity to survive the entire day so let's get into it!!!
First of all, hello good stranger~ You are part of a “hivemind” 🐝 of rolling your eyes over the surrounding couples! Whether you want to confess to someone during that special day or just a regular single, if you are not dating, you are one of us~
Before we get into it, I would like to give some quick encouragement to the singles planning to betray us (⊙ˍ⊙). As one of the people of this hivemind, if you are planning to confess to your crush, do it quickly!!! I sense our other fellow bees are also buzzing to confess to that special person of yours. It's ALWAYS worth a shot to confess because if that person accepts, yay! You have officially become a traitor to us singles. (╯‵□′)╯︵┻━┻ If not, it is alright to feel upset but it's not the end of the world! It may hurt for now, but it will hurt more if you cause a fuss that you may regret in the future. Besides, having closure on those feelings is nice too. (✿◡‿◡)
Now, let's move on to the main points of this article~
1. Focus on your own things. (Aka Don’t be a busybody!!!) 👀
What is worse than seeing a couple in public? Multiple couples in sight. Everywhere you go, there are bound to be couples! So, if you see a couple in a café, distract yourself by focusing on your own things. It can be doing your assignment💻, using your phone📱 or read a book📚. You can also wear earphones🎧 and watch or listen to something to drown out the cheesy words🧀 coming out from the surrounding couples. All while closing your eyes to imagine a café with no couples. With distractions, it feels like fantasy has become reality... (Is this the real life? Or is this just fantasy~~~🎵)
2. Hang out with fellow single bees. 🐝
Who says Valentines must only be for couples? Yes, it is a day primarily for lovers, but no Valentine’s Day police ❌🚔 would come to arrest you if you spent the day with your close friends instead. It can always feel lonely when you see other people have lovers, but romantic relationships are not what truly define if you are lonely or not. Friendships are also important and should not be taken for granted! Friends are people who have accepted being with us despite our ugly sides. Like a plant🌱, if we do not care for them and only mindlessly pursue being in romantic relationships, they will slowly wither away...
Hence, take this day as an opportunity to grow friendships as “being alone on Valentine’s Day”. It works as something to bond over. We really can't deny that, with our true friends, we feel a bit less lonely on this day. 🤝
3. Hang out...with yourself. 😎
Lonely does not equal alone. Some of us believe we have no friends or feel it is too awkward to hang out with family members. Some also enjoy having time alone and not having to feel lonely from looking at couples. Hence, if others can change Valentine’s into Friendship Day, you can change it into a "YOU YES YOU" day! 🎊 Treat yourself to self-care like taking a nice nap💤, reading books📚, hitting the gym 😎, playing video games🎮, having warm baths🛀, having an expensive dinner that you know some couples cannot go to because of budget for two people, etc. Having proper alone time is nice because it helps us understand ourselves better. The world does not revolve around us so there will be times when everyone is too busy for us. Hence, at least you will have a general idea of what to do to pass the time. 💭
4. Look at the bright side and address your insecurities. 🌻
Remind yourself of the positives. You can save money 💰 and get sweet discounts for treats╰（‵□′）╯. You can also set a goal🏁 for yourself to get a lover before next year’s Valentine’s! Being pessimistic ☔ gives you nothing but furrowed eyebrows, so you might as well spend that energy on something else like moving on with your life or treating yourself. 🌹
5. “Just a typical Tuesday.” 🤷♀️
Sometimes the best method is to just treat it like any other day and do what you usually do. When we were younger, weren't birthdays treated as the biggest and best day but as we grow older, it starts to feel like just another day? Oh, there is nothing wrong with wanting your birthday to be special even if you are now older! It is a "YOU YES YOU" day and after all, the date of your birth📅. But if you are single yet not going to make Valentine’s Day into “Friendship Day!” “Family Day!” “Date-with-myself Day!” or a “Marketing Opportunity Day!” then what is the point of obsessing over this day when you could be doing your assignment that is due, I don’t know, next week?
Though we are singles, we should not ruin other people's day or use it as an excuse to insult the person in the mirror. Instead, we singles should use this day as an opportunity to bond with ourselves, fellow friends, and family members, and create nice memories to look back on🤝. It is also not the end of the world if we cannot have a date this year. Who knows, maybe by the time the next Valentine’s Day comes, you may have already defected from the hivemind already! w(ﾟДﾟ)w Just remember, you are also a human being, so you must treat yourself how you want your loved ones to be treated. Do that and eventually, your confidence will naturally rise and inversely, people will fall for you.
Signing off, thank you for reading your fellow singles' copium~
Sincerely,
THE FONZ EDITORIAL TEAM
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